Worrying about finances keeps me awake at night, what can I
Before bed is not the time to
worry. But by talking about it here, you're more likely to
understand why you need to find another slot every day, or
maybe a couple of times each week, to do some highly creative
and productive worrying. That way, you won't do it as you lie
in bed, trying to sleep.
You might need a little notebook for your creative
worrying. Or you might create files in your laptop. You could
use a page in your organizer or journal. This does need to be
something you carry around with you. The next time you find
yourself worrying about something, you want to get out that
notebook or open a computer file in the laptop and write down
what you find yourself worrying about. At least a couple of
times a week, you're going to sit down and focus on exactly
what you're going to do to resolve that worry. You're going to
plan action steps, prioritize the activities and begin to
implement them. You may need to schedule appointments to talk
with your mate, boss, neighbor or relative. But then, you're
going to tell yourself, when that worry comes up, "Self,
this is not the time to worry about that. Self, you're allowed
specific times to worry about things and to work on finding
solutions. But this is not a worry time, so forget it."
And just let it go… that is, until the next appropriate time
Again, this is a simple sounding idea that can have a major
effect on your quality of life. Remind yourself that you need
and deserve to sleep well. Remind yourself that worry without
action is a waste of energy.
If you still find yourself worrying at bedtime, visualize
breathing in through the top of your head and then breathing
out worry and tension. And as you lie down, do the bellows
breath that's covered in Chapter 11-"Home James!"
And when you let the long breath go, relax.
Here's a simple form of meditation you can also use. Repeat
any word or phrase that is comforting to you, such as
"Love" or "Peace." Certainly a mantra or
religious phrase that is part of your spiritual tradition is
appropriate. Pay attention to your breath. When your thoughts
wander, bring them gently back to your breath. There are many
books available to help you learn meditation.